All set, the bride and the groom, the wedding cake, the priest or minister to execute your wedding, the alter ready for you to walk down the aisle with your beloved. Everything well planned with that personal touch. Then some of us feel why those same old traditional get wedding vows to be recited.
Come on it’s your day, a day of union of two hearts, give it that special personal feel and prepare your own wedding vows. Some tips to help you do this daunting task much easier and lighter with a touch of love and personal feel.
It is your day but the minister, priest or officiant who will execute the marriage and nuptial rites should be aware of the same. Infact it is very important to meet the concerned person and discuss with him about it, the vows which you will personalise and if agreed then go ahead. In most Catholic churches and Episcopal congregations it is a must to recite the traditional vows so it’s only at the discreet of the attendant these changes can be made.
Once approved then go ahead with scripting and drafting it. Either make different vows to be said by the two of you or make a common vow which has the element of what you feel for each other in your own way. It is not necessary to say the same thing; it can be two different thoughts coming from you. Remember your wedding vows must come from the depth of heart. These are promises you make to each other.
Very important to understand what you are going to say so please make a rough outline. And make it just up to the point. Outline your speech and ask yourself these questions and frame accordingly.
Remember you are not giving a formal speech nor are you saying a vote of thanks at the Oscars. It’s a live marriage ritual going on and your wedding vows are a part of this ritual or nuptial rite hence ensures that your wedding vows to be said by the two of you do not exceed more than 5 minutes each. Make it short and pristine.
It’s about both of you and your feeling for each other so you don’t have to by heart and recite the same as a poem. No doubt you might have read it and practised it but on that day let the words flow naturally. Rather make it more interesting when you say it minus the paper. Here again it is important for both of you to know that in case you have made a mistake don’t panic and fumble , just relax and continue to say your part. My bet not many may realise the folly.
You may be surprised as how the Words flow in naturally and your feeling expressed. The two magic words “I do” with your thoughtful vows, the declaration of consent when you take each other and wholeheartedly agree to these words “I take you________ as my wife/husband, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health all the days of my life” and finally as you wear the rings and ask him/her to accept it as the sign of love and fidelity. It’s a moment no words can explain. Finally Marriage means so many things that words and vow can’t say. It’s the beginning and celebration of a new life together.