Having Sex

My morning knocked with this question, “Having sex” without being in love is easy either for a man or a woman? How this question came in to my mind is like this, it was 5 O’ Clock in the morning and my sleep got interrupted by a phone call from a dear friend of mine; she said last night she made a mistake, a one night stand with her one friend. Alas!! I was surprised I asked her how you could do this? She quoted, “she was damn upset because of her recent break up with her boyfriend.”

After that I was just in deep thoughts, is that easy to have sex with a person to whom you don’t love. As far as I know when you are so close to someone and you are thinking to sleep with him, you are in love with your man. In fact even you can’t kiss with intimacy to a person whom you don’t love.

We can’t deny this fact, either a man or a woman, for both sex is a biological need. And these two opposite sex get closer most of the time if they are not related biologically. When it comes to married couples, physical relationship is not only a need but it is a bond of love. But what should we understand,  if it is with some person to whom you don’t love?

Or it is like if you are emotionally broken you can get closer to anyone? Is this right? Of course when it comes to moral many of us will say it is wrong. My friend argued that “you will not understand my condition how deeply I am hurt after my break up…. Nothing was intentional it just happened, but I agree I shouldn’t have done this.”

I find she is not clear in herself ; a dilemma or a contradiction!!!! I thought to make a research on this, I called up many of my married and single friends. Undoubtedly I was loaded with lots of views, it’s very true every person has his own thoughts and sometimes it varies a lot from person to person and thus it is highly tough to conclude what is right and what is wrong?

One of my friend said, it’s not a big deal it is usual when you are alone, devastated from your life and personal matter, you need someone to listen you and if the person is a man, certain situation can arouse leading towards weakness and you can fall for him. Another view from my one married friend is that one should have control over his/her mind.

Till now I am nowhere to any final conclusion that what is right and what is wrong? My research on this topic will go on until I get a satisfactory answer. But I want to share this with online readers to get an idea what they think on this topic?

Hope to see some good replies…..