Having Sex
My morning knocked with this question, “Having sex” without being in love is easy either for a man or a woman? How this question came in to my mind is like this, it was 5 O’ Clock in the morning and my sleep got interrupted by a phone call from a dear friend of mine; she said last night she made a mistake, a one night stand with her one friend. Alas!! I was surprised I asked her how you could do this? She quoted, “she was damn upset because of her recent break up with her boyfriend.”
After that I was just in deep thoughts, is that easy to have sex with a person to whom you don’t love. As far as I know when you are so close to someone and you are thinking to sleep with him, you are in love with your man. In fact even you can’t kiss with intimacy to a person whom you don’t love.
We can’t deny this fact, either a man or a woman, for both sex is a biological need. And these two opposite sex get closer most of the time if they are not related biologically. When it comes to married couples, physical relationship is not only a need but it is a bond of love. But what should we understand, if it is with some person to whom you don’t love?
Or it is like if you are emotionally broken you can get closer to anyone? Is this right? Of course when it comes to moral many of us will say it is wrong. My friend argued that “you will not understand my condition how deeply I am hurt after my break up…. Nothing was intentional it just happened, but I agree I shouldn’t have done this.”
I find she is not clear in herself ; a dilemma or a contradiction!!!! I thought to make a research on this, I called up many of my married and single friends. Undoubtedly I was loaded with lots of views, it’s very true every person has his own thoughts and sometimes it varies a lot from person to person and thus it is highly tough to conclude what is right and what is wrong?
One of my friend said, it’s not a big deal it is usual when you are alone, devastated from your life and personal matter, you need someone to listen you and if the person is a man, certain situation can arouse leading towards weakness and you can fall for him. Another view from my one married friend is that one should have control over his/her mind.
Till now I am nowhere to any final conclusion that what is right and what is wrong? My research on this topic will go on until I get a satisfactory answer. But I want to share this with online readers to get an idea what they think on this topic?
Hope to see some good replies…..
Tags: break ups, having sex, intercourse, love, love affairs, physical relationship, sex relation, sexual relationship
Nice article!!!…..It’s good to have such kinda article to go through and have a self realization of what we think about seriously….
Waiting for some more cool stuffs……:)
There is no denying that sex is a biological need, but different persons have different degrees of cravings for this biological need. we can see both ends of the spectrum from sex addiction at the one end to abstinence at the other end. The degree of craving is sometimes dependent on the state of mind of the individual. After break up some people tend to sleep to the first person they meet as a rebound or as a form of emotional support. We also find some people who are so hurt from their previous experience that they run away from any form of emotional closeness. To them meaningless sex is a way of getting emotional support.
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I am 33 and have been married for nearly 6 years. Have always been sincere to him. However, was in love with another person from the age of 16, we hardly spoke to each other. The 2 times we did, we managed to excahnge addresses and wrote to each other, may be 2 or 3 times and then it all disappeared during college days. I had a short affair with another guy and he had a broken heart with his girlfriend (found out after meeting him). I never forgot my first love, but never confessed the same to him. Just a year ago, I found him on facebook last year and we reconnected instantly. He, too has been married for a year. We live in different countries. I was visiting my native land, we he lives and met him after 14 years. Something just happened and I told him about how I felt for him all these years. He said he liked me too and we kissed. I never felt like that before. One thing lead to another and we spent the night together. It was amazing. I know I still love him and felt that somewhere he too had similar feelings. But he instantly denied any love at all. “He likes me, things would have been different if we were not married, but sex just happened without any love.” I cannot believe that such is possible. I know I have cheated on my husband, but i am only human and not all things in life are meant to be “right”. We are no longer in touch, but it would have been a dream come true he had some love during that night.