When I am at the weakest point of my life
you are there encouraging me to run this race
because I am not only cause you are there with me.

You are on my mind day and night.

When we are apart I picture you gracious smile and gentle hug.

I can let my feelings out to you and won’t regret it
because no matter what is you are always on my side.

I thank God for sending me someone like you who is precious and loving.

So I can truly say that you are the Angel of My Life!

By  manuel

Arguments can arise on money or finance, ex boyfriend or girlfriend, daily household chores, responsibility as parents, lack of time given to each other and if nothing then just silly annoyance. But have we thought how do these arguments begin and what is the basic root cause of these sudden eruptions of such arguments. Let’s find out.

1.You don’t love me anymore. Do you?

Any argument starts off and then pat comes the reason you don’t love me anymore. In fact the women folk are the ones who argue about this, simply because they are so very insecure about the love they receive from their partner. Come on everyday cannot be a fairy tale or your partner cannot be the Romeo he was always. After those courtship days and your confession of love for each other, you have decided to live the rest of your life with each other, he becomes a responsible man and has to cater to many more matters in life, and he can’t sit beside your bedside and always have romantic days all his life.

Solution: Be practical, this is real life and not reel life so be sure that your partner loves you and will love you always. Small and petty matters shouldn’t let you have a question of doubt. Give him time; space and freedom to express himself don’t make him do it by force. It won’t work that way. Be his lover and love him not a boss and order him. Be patient.

2.You don’t trust me

The main string of a relationship which keeps it going is the Trust factor. If mutual trust is lost between a couple believe me the basic foundation of a relationship is missing. Trust should be from both sides. I don’t believe you, why did you lie to me? Do I need to remind you time and again?, I know you will not do it. All these boils to one simple cause the most important “TRUST”

Solution:Remember fidelity and trust is what you have promised to each other, so be committed in this relation and learn to forgive and forget, avoid lies, cheating on each other, keeping secrets, infidelity and be more open and understanding towards each other. Avoid the blame game.

3.I know you were with him/her

Many of us may have had a past and been in a relationship before as well. I know you were with her/him, whom are you sending these SMS? So you are still in touch with her/him. Why do these questions come in your mind? Why do you keep complaining or doubting that your partner is seeing or still in touch with his/her Ex- girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse. They have broken up because things were not going fine with them, they were not compatible. You are the person he or she is involved currently and what he values now so please ignore and forget the ‘EX’ factor.

Solution: As mentioned above if the first two points are there in your relationship this argument will never happen. In plain words if you love and trust your partner you will never question him or her about the Exes. Remember past is history, live in the present. You are with your partner is today so a past shouldn’t bother you.

4.You don’t have time for me anymore.

You used to spend so much time with me, now you don’t have time for anything. This argument starts off and ends nowhere cause it is simply a baseless argument. Why couldn’t we go out for lunch together? Why did you go out with your friends? These arguments are because you are so possessive and insecure without your partner, but by doing this you are harming yourself. Your constant nagging will give way for your partner to drift away from you.

Solution: Please spend time with each other it is important but please give enough space and freedom to each other as well. Your partner is not accountable to every breath he/she takes; they have their life, priority as well. Don’t just be the possessive, obsessed lover it will ruin your relationship with each other as no one likes to be ruled and dictated by their partner. Mature in your relation and you will find your partner giving you the time you need.

5.I am fed up of life. You will never understand

I have to clean and tidy up, cook, look after the kids, send them to school, I am tired, I am fed up. I feel like a housemaid. You will never understand, you are heartless, you can’t see anything. For a married couple specially attending to daily household chores, kids, laundry, cleaning, cooking becomes tiresome and this argument must be doing the round in everyone’s house.

Solution: Share and distribute work chores, see if you can find a help like a babysitter, or maid, take turns to some routine chores like laundry and cleaning, appreciate your partner for the effort he/she takes to manage the house. Show your love and concern by going out for a relaxing weekend, a getaway from the mundane chores, gifting, pampering. Trust me it helps.

Remember life is all about adjustments. What you need is time, patience, commitment, honesty, love, forgiveness trust and a great deal of understanding for each other. Silly annoyances, petty fights and arguments just take away the peace from your life and hurt one another. Just learn to relax in every situation and use simple techniques to live a happier, stronger and have a healthier relationship with each other.

Jin k pass hoti hain umer bhar ki yadain
Wo log tanhai me bhi tanha nahin hote

Na daikh yon kisi ghareeb ko nech nazroon se
Koi majbori na ho to hath phele nahin jate

Waste daite hain abb Khoda k tujhe
Aur hum se abb jabar sehne nahin hote

Shaid ajj me tere naseeb me hota
Agar tum mere ansaon par hanse nahin hote

Bhool jate hain jo apni mohabbat ko
Ankhon me un k anso nahin hote

Photata hai jin k andar chashma mohabbat ka
Daman un k kabhi mele nahin hote

HUSSNAIN chahte hain jo kisi ko sache dil se
Aik din k wo mehtaj nahin hote

By Mirza Hussnain Azam